Saturday, February 28, 2009

Show and Tell:

For Show and Tell (from Mel at the Stirrup Queens), I share an affirmation I found after my second miscarriage. I remember the feeling throughout my whole body: I lost something. I felt that my body was mourning just as my heart was. I read this frequently, and although it is bittersweet, it inspires me to keep trying.

A Mother's Prayer or Affirmation After Miscarriage

In this time of loss I call upon my spirit within to guide me to my strength so that I may find peace and completion.

I will use this strength to demand of myself and others my need to grieve completely, for this will be my first step to healing.

During my time of grief I will seek guidance not only from my inner spirit but from loving persons who may offer wisdom and comfort.

I need to understand that the soul as well as the physical body needs healing and to pay attention to this. I will learn to accept that the soul may never heal completely.

I will learn to live not in fear and once again see beauty in my world and purpose in my existence.

In spite of my new knowledge that things happen that cannot be controlled, I must call upon the places within me that tell me I do have control over much of my life and use this control to aid my healing.

Let me recognize the gift in my ability to conceive and carry life however briefly.

Let me take joy in my ability to love so deeply and desire to nurture a soul unbeknownst to me.

Let me find healing in the belief that this oul knew my love for it and that that love helped it to pass to another place.

Let me honor this short life not only with my love but in finding meaning in its existence.

Let me recognize this meaning in not only my ability to survive, but in my fullest appreciation of all the moments motherhood will bring me, along with my deeper compassion and sisterhood to other women who've experienced loss.

Let a part of this soul be reflected in the spirit of my future children, born or adopted, so that I may know it through them.

I will listen to and trust the place in my deepest heart that tells me I will once again be reunited with this soul and will fulfill the need to hold it in my arms.

I will help myself to feel comfort in the knowledge that there is a star in heaven that belongs to me.

by Stacey Dinner-Levin


  1. What a wonderful affirmation. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Wise Words those! Thanks for sharing....

    Be good and take care!

  3. Hope you don't mind but I've also posted this affirmation on my blog today with a reference back to your blog....I think it's something I needed to find, so thankyou


  4. Wow, that's a wonderful affirmation. Thanks for sharing!


  5. There are so many great things about that affirmation. Thanks for sharing

  6. I hate that such pain touches so many, but love that you have shared this important affirmation with us. Thank you!

  7. These are beautiful self-affirmations. May I pring and bring to our next loss meeting? I know the parent who attend would love to have them.

  8. So beautiful! I hope they are helping you find peace. Thank you for sharing them.

  9. Carrie, what a lovely post. Thanks for sharing such a meaningful piece of writing--and thanks also for visiting my blog and for leaving such a sweet comment! The "you will have a large family" fortune would have broken me to bits, given that we were so close...but now, I'm just hoping and praying for one! I so appreciate your well wishes for Tuesday's appointment (here we go again!) and will definitely check back to see how things are going with you.

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